social appropriateness

what is social appropriateness? i am reminded fairly often that i'm not really all that socially appropriate, but who decides this? i even remind myself. now where does that come from? i've heard that some things are best not said. in fact i don't even need to hear it, rolling eyes, glares from across the room, rejection, distance, all these speak faster than the words of this social value. there is a saying that goes, "don't cast your pearl before swine" which is wise i think. but has honesty become one of these pearls we cannot cast? it's not safe to be honest anymore. i think we are far too socially appropriate for our own health. the ground swell of socially appropriate pop culture doesn't really show an interest in honesty. we'd rather keep it superficial. "too much information" is even too much information so it's become tmi. i wonder how strong our release valves really are? it makes me think of tectonic plates. it seems socially appropriate to live in hip places like california, maybe we all live in california in our minds? to live on a fault line and pretend that it’s not dangerous is what I would call socially inappropriate